… Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Who is our audience for Should I Stay or Should I Go? … those unmarried.  While I may encourage a couple in a stagnant long term relationship to break-up and move on, my advice would unlikely be the same for a married couple with children.

 

For those in long-term relationships or those thinking of marriage, here are 15 challenging questions to ponder. 

1)  Am I with the right person?

2)  Are we compatible… or “mismatched”?

3)  Is my partner my best friend?

4)  Would I want to spend the rest of my life with this person?

5)  My friends and/or relatives give me advice about my relationship? But do they really understand my relationship?

6) Am I in love… or ….  Am I under the influence of distorted emotions, a kind of temporary insanity?

7) Should I break up for several months, or half a year, to sort things out? Do I need a timeout?

8) Is my relationship fixable, or do I drop the keys and walk away?

9)  Are we really transparent?  Do we really know what the other is thinking?

10)  I often leap before I look. Is my relationship another example of impulse?

11) Am I held in this relationship because I feel guilty about leaving it?

12) Is our relationship one-sided?  … only one person really loves the other?

13)  Am I lonely while in this steady relationship?

14)  Am I in a rut, unable to break away from a stagnant relationship?

15)  Do I picture my partner as a great parent to my children?

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Undecided About Getting Married?

Hmm… To Stay or Not to Stay?

She seems to have the ideal checklist boyfriend, an ideal candidate to marry, but…. something is not quite right.
A link to a great scene from the movie “See You in September”   (4 minutes)

 

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QUICK TOOLS:  Here are the 15 questions from above in an simple copy/paste format. Consider sharing some of these questions with individuals you know that are in challenging or struggling long term relationships. Of course, it is a bold step on your part, and may be perceived as meddling. But at least you can take comfort in the fact that you made an effort to help your friend.

 

For those in long-term relationships or those thinking of marriage, here are 15 challenging questions to ponder.  (from cropable.com)

1. Am I with the right person?
2. Are we compatible… or “mismatched”?
3. Is my partner my best friend?
4. Would I want to spend the rest of my life with this person?
5. My friends and/or relatives give me advice about my relationship? But do they really understand my relationship?
6. Am I in love… or ….  Am I under the influence of distorted emotions, a kind of temporary insanity?
7. Should I break up for several months, or half a year, to sort things out? Do I need a timeout?
8. Is my relationship fixable, or do I drop the keys and walk away?
9. Are we really transparent?  Do we really know what the other is thinking?
10. I often leap before I look. Is my relationship another example of impulse?
11. Am I held in this relationship because I feel guilty about leaving it?
12. Is our relationship one-sided?  … only one person really loves the other?
13. Am I lonely while in this steady relationship?
14. Am I in a rut, unable to break away from a stagnant relationship?
15. Do I picture my partner as a fantastic parent in the future?

 

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